Why did I just do that?!
Posted by on February 6, 2016
“Behaviour is the product of relational experiences” Margot Sutherland.
In addressing behaviour we need to understand what is trying to be communicated. Sometimes we find ourselves acting or saying something and wondering why did i just say/do that?! Behaviour expresses a part of our inner world. It communicates a part of us we may or may not be aware of and draws on our experienced expectations …of self and other.
In understanding our behaviour we need to ask why we are communicating and relating in this way. What result am i expecting/predicting based on my experiences from the past in relating - Read More
Which step have you reached today?
Posted by on February 5, 2016
Taking each day step by step together helps make the mountains more manageable and the molehills just molehills 🙂
Selective listening and the impact on relating
Posted by on February 5, 2016
Are you a selective internal listener? Always listening to the doubtful, critical sides of ourselves stops us seeing ourselves and others for who we/they are in our/their entirety. By accepting all parts of ourselves, warts and all, we promote a way of relating which can bring out the best in ourselves and others and relate in a loving accepting, non-selective way.
No one is perfect, we all make mistakes and we all do things we might regret – but love can repair and accepting that we have strengths as well as weaknesses and actively embracing those strengths brings us closer - Read More
Angry – do you really know why?
Posted by on February 5, 2016
Anger, when expressed well, can get things done, invigorate movement and provoke change. Whilst it’s an emotion that we can also misuse, anger tells us to look at what’s really bothering us and needs to be listened to or changed.
Listening to the meaning in your anger rather than simply reacting can be incredibly empowering and enabling – next time you feel angry perhaps try to take a moment to wonder what it is that you feel in your body…are you scared, anxious, worried, feeling unsafe – once you know then you can act if you need to or not.
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